Ages: 16 - 17
For two boisterous, active siblings, the search is on to match their personalities and attitudes with an adoptive family. They love to tease each other and laugh together. If you are a quiet, sedate couple that insists on strict order, these children wouldn't fit your family. If you value teens who work out their own compromises and learn by doing, you might be a perfect fit!
"My favorite subjects are science and art. I like to work out or play basketball or hang out with my friends. I like sports-- football and basketball. I still don't know what I want to be when I grow up.
I like Alayna because she's bright and she has a good sense of humor. She's a good person. It's important that we stay together because she's all that I have. When we were younger, she would stick up for me, even though I didn't want her to sometimes. She pretty much has saved me in big situations. When I was about five, I was scared to walk down the hall to the bathroom. I used to wake Alayna or my older sister Meciah up and have them walk me to the bathroom, even though their room was farther away than mine.
I want a family who is going to take care of us and stays with us for good. I don't really care if our family is our race. I wouldn't have a problem with a multicultural family. It's more important what their personality is. Maybe a large family, one that actually cares about us and the people in our other family--like letting us have contact with our grandma or older sister and wouldn't say 'you have 5 more minutes with your grandma.'"
Diamere is the peacemaker of the family. His generous spirit is an endearing quality that his siblings appreciate, and you will too! He looks forward to parents who share his love of sports, go to games or watch them on TV, and who show up at their kids' games.
"I'm still deciding what I would like to be when I grow up. I know I need to work on finishing high school first. I think I'd like to be an NFL cheerleader, lawyer, or maybe a famous cosmetologist. I want to make sure I have a good job so I can support myself.
I don't just like everything about my brother, I love everything about him. It's important to me that Diamere and I are placed together because he's my brother and that the only family I have left. No matter what happens, we're always going to be there for each other.
I'd be ok with one or two parents. I haven't really had a good experience with having two parents. I'd like a smaller family, maybe one or two other siblings. I'd love it if we were the only children."
Alayna is the playful, humorist in the family. Her tendency to be blunt and even oppositional can be softened by people who play to her strengths. Finding her own unique interests in music, dance, sports, etc. and being generous with one-on-one time will go a long way towards encouraging good choices. Alayna can become easily bored, so having varied activities, short study times and built-in rewards will be important.
Though that may present unique challenges. Diamere and Alayna could be a lot of fun for the right family. They need a parent that's not afraid to set boundaries, but also understands that keeping these teens involved in the things they find interesting is the best way to help them make good choices.
Alayna and Diamere need a safe environment in which adults make them a priority in their lives. They have distinct interests and needs, though they share an enjoyment of music, sports and southern food.
According to their caseworker, these teens don't do well with authority figures that want to do a lot of lecturing. When a line is crossed, draw attention to the rule and then move on. Come back to it later, especially to reinforce positive behavior or when negotiation is necessary. They respond well to people that reward improvements and good choices.
Because they've missed a lot of school, these teens need educational allies who recognize their high intelligence and will help them catch up with their grade level. They have so much potential to excel in this area!
Caseworkers will be looking closely at home studies that reflect an ability and intention to access multiple community resources and professional counseling, as it is needed. Family counseling would be an asset while facing the challenge of transitioning these youths into one family that can meet their individual needs.
Alayna and Diamere indicated a desire to stay connected with their older sister Meciah, grandmother and extended family, as well as with foster family members. They were also enthusiastic in their desire that a family take them to entertainment places they've never experienced. They have lived in Virginia and Florida and would like to return, as well as travel to new places.
Alayna and Dom's resilient natures, exuberance and courage are qualities their adoptive parents can rely on as they face complex transitions ahead. For a family that's up for those challenges, these two teens have so much to offer!
Portrait by Alessi Photography
To find out more about Diamere and Alayna, email the Idaho CareLine (please include your city AND zip code) or call 1-800-926-2588. In Idaho you can dial 2-1-1. You may be asked to provide this reference number: 30439.
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